Both of the dogs are depressed. Tails are tucked under, ears are floppy, and there has been a lot of napping and sighing going on.
Tony took a flight out of town last night and is now in full work and travel mode.
The dogs have done nothing but mope around and look at me like, “Where is he and when is he coming back?”
I think I may be a little depressed about the whole thing too. It’s a bittersweet kind of thing, I suppose.
I believe he left his job in New Hampshire sometime in March and then only physically worked for the company here for about a month before being laid off.
That means that we have been able to spend about 9 months of true, quality time together. It’s only been one day and I miss our time together already.
That’s the most consecutive time we’ve spent together without him having to travel out of town in the entire 23 years we’ve been married.
I’m thankful we didn’t allow the stress of it to gobble us up. We didn’t end up resenting one another’s presence and getting on each other’s nerves…too much. You hear that a lot about couples who lose their jobs or retire.
We’ve even had people say it to us when we’ve told them about our life over the last year, “Oh good, and you’re still together”, they say. Tony’s answer to that is, “Well, I’m an exceptional husband.”
Which always gets a good snicker of course.
This time we’ve had has made me look forward even more to retirement. It was something I actually thought about in the past. “Will we like spending all that time together when he retires?” “Will he drive me nuts?” “What will we do?”
I can tell you I wasn’t bored one time during the last 9 months. We found all kinds of enjoyable stuff to do together and there were only a few tense moments. Those moments were really only due to the fact that he makes noise and watches TV more than I do. Prior to him being off work for so long, I was used to a very quiet house. Evidently I have plenty of noise going on in my head without adding anything to it.
Overall I think we are better off after this time spent together. In fact, our relationship is stronger than ever. That’s saying something after being together for a total of 26 years…that a marriage can get even better.
Even when there’s mass quantities of stress and frustrations that are seemingly out of our control. In my mind, in a world full of divorce and all kinds of issues, the fact that a relationship can continue to grow and strengthen after 26 years just seems like a massive blessing.
We’ve definitely put the “T” in Teamwork over the past couple of years. We’ve had a lot of career stress, major extended family issues, and I’ve had and continue to have a battle with Lyme Disease. Even one of those circumstances happening would make the strongest of folks wobble at least a little.
We’ve faced them all at once.
What I cherish and wish I would remember at the beginning of every stressful season of life, because there will be more…is that when you’re coming out the other side of it and you can look back…not only did you live through it which is celebration enough, but in so many ways you’re better for it.
That’s like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. As if the rainbow after the storm wasn’t beautiful enough!
So although it’s easy to whine about how I wish I didn’t have a traveling husband and many other things, there’s been so much positive to come out of these 2 years of complete and absolute craziness that I never expected, it’s hard to complain too much because I just really feel so incredibly thankful.
Thankful for a working, loving, husband and friend. Thankful that I have Romeo and Abigail to mope around with me. Thankful that we’re back in town and 1.5 miles from my mom and our son instead of 2,700 miles away. Thankful that we took some incredible leaps of faith. Thankful that we made some unbelievably tough decisions. Thankful that even when some issues aren’t resolved there’s still plenty of good pouring over into each day. Thankful for the joy I get from food blogging and hearing from all of you. Thankful as I sit here in my cozy little library and office that’s just for me. Thankful that as I look out the window I’m being presented right this minute with yet another amazing and beautiful sunset that is filling the sky with bright reds and pinks. And mostly really, I’m just thankful that I have the ability to recognize a blessing and that I have so many, I can’t count them all.
“Blessed is he who is not offended that no man receives what he deserves…blessed is he who gets that joke, who sees that miracle.” ~ Buechner
Herbed Flatbread Crisps
Preheat oven to 375 degrees
1 Box of Chebe Foccacia Mix
1 1/2 Tablespoons of Fresh Chives, snipped
2 teaspoons of Fresh Rosemary, snipped
1 1/2 teaspoons of Fresh Thyme Leaves
1 1/2 teaspoons of Garlic Powder
1 Tablespoon of Chia Seeds
3/4 teaspoons of Sea Salt
6 Grinds of Fresh Pepper
3 Tablespoons of Olive Oil
1/2 Cup of Unsweetened Hemp Milk
Cut a piece of parchment paper to fit a baking sheet. Mix all ingredients together with a fork in a medium bowl until combined. Knead with hand until smooth. Roll out thinly on the parchment to fit as much of the cut parchment as possible. Slide the parchment and dough onto a baking sheet. Bake (I use convection) for 25 minutes. Allow to cool for about 5 minutes before tearing or cutting into pieces.
Sundried Tomato & Spinach Bean Spread
1 15 oz. can of Garbanzo Beans (Chickpeas)
1 Cup of Baby Spinach, packed
2 Large Garlic Cloves, peeled
2 Tablespoons of Bragg’s Organic Sprinkle
5 Sun Dried Tomatoes in Oil
1/2 teaspoon of Sea Salt
8 Grinds of Pepper
Juice of 1 Fresh Lemon
3/4 Cup of Avocado Oil
Place all ingredients except avocado oil in food processor. Pulse about 20 times until ingredients are chopped. Turn on High and slowly drizzle the avocado into the mixture. Continue mixing on High for 2 minutes.
What a lovely post. How precious to have been able to enjoy the past nine months together. It certainly would seem strange to have him gone now, so no wonder the dogs are miffed. The flatbread crackers with the dip look like a wonderful snack xx
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